One thing we all have in common is hurtful comments said to us by friends and family members as we are living out our infertility journey. Although people try to be well intentioned, sometimes it would be better if they didn't say anything at all. What about you? One hurtful thing which may have been said to you is..."You can always adopt!"
Now don't get me wrong. I am a firm believer in adoption. There are many newborn babies, toddlers, and teenagers who can use a good home. My problem with the comment is when people launch into a long discussion about how they started adoption proceedings only to find out that they were expecting.
My problem is...that you should commit to adopting or not. I don't believe in using adoption as a way to leverage on God, nor do I believe that adoption is a consolation prize. Adoption is a wonderful thing for many families and it is not for others. My frustration is when people offer it up as a 'quick fix' to my situation.
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Thursday, May 19, 2011
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
SUBMERSED!!!
The dictionary defines 'submerse' as "To place or go under, or as if under water. To cover with water." As Infertility life coaches, we have lots of people comment on the cover art of our coaching template, which you can see on this blog. We have had women tell us that they feel like the beautiful woman depicted here. They tell us that on the outside, they appear to be an attractive woman, with her 'act together.' On the inside, they say they feel as though they are drowning in the secret sorrow of infertility. Each month when their period begins again, they grieve the loss of what 'might have been,' the pregnancy they so desire. Each month they suffer alone, and in silence, because their grief and loss is too devastating to even voice out loud to another person.
The Center for Disease and Prevention reports that 7.3 million women between the ages of 15-44; or 11.8% of women in this age range, cite trouble with infertility. In this study, infertility is defined as being 'unable to conceive for more than 12 months'.
So what about you?
The Center for Disease and Prevention reports that 7.3 million women between the ages of 15-44; or 11.8% of women in this age range, cite trouble with infertility. In this study, infertility is defined as being 'unable to conceive for more than 12 months'.
So what about you?
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