The holidays can be a tough time for persons struggling with infertility. First, there are all of the commercials depicting children in family settings, or with Santa. Then, there are the parties and family gatherings where you dread being asked, "When are you going to start your family?" Last but not least, your mind has to do some sabatoging of its own by playing the "if only I had children" game, or the "Regrets" Limited Family Edition game. Ugh!
So what can you do to make the holidays more bearable?
Some suggestions are to plan ahead for the holidays. Decide which events, and invitations you will accept. Attend only those events that are required, or which will bring you joy. Protect yourself from sad, toxic events-life is too short to be miserable.
For some people, finding a charity or cause which focuses on children is a way to cope with "waiting" to have their own children. It provides a way to become involved, and forget about your own situation for awhile. For others, this is a bad idea.
Our favorite suggestion? Think about what gives you pleasure and create a new tradition around this holiday season that will give you joy. God does not want you to put your life "on hold" while you wait. If you ask Him- He will tell you what gift you can give Him this holiday, after all, it's His birthday. Write us and tell us how you get through the holidays, or the new tradition you have decided to start. We would love to hear from you!
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